Making peace 12 January 2006
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After the four-year relationship preceding my marriage ended, my analyst told me to read On Death And Dying by the late psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. This seminal work on the subject of grief introduced the five stages of grief: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. While at first blush, it may seem odd to read a book about a psychiatrist’s interactions with terminally ill patients when coping with something like the end of a relationship, but when I read it back in 2000, I could see the parallels in my grieving process. (more…)
Weekend’s over, who the hell knows what’s going on 8 January 2006
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To say I’m getting mixed messages is an understatement. Mrs. NDR’s mood goes from snippy and mean-spirited to a place somewhere in the vicinity of normal. All I can say is SIGH! (more…)
Fear and (Self) Loathing 7 January 2006
Posted by nodress in "lou rawls", breakup, divorce, george bush, grief, marriage, personal, politics.2 comments
And no, I don’t even pretend that my writing is on par with the inimitable Hunter S. Thompson. I am just taking the advice of one of my profs — start with an interesting title. (more…)
Burning Down The House 5 January 2006
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Tonight was the first night of couples counseling. Surprisingly not much to say. Mrs. NDR is finding out that now that she has a good job and friends she is wanting the single lifestyle. We have agreed that we were too young when we got married. But what is the answer? The therapist says, and the Mrs. agrees, that this could go either way. My “homework” is to give her space, and her homework is to be nicer and more upbeat. Is this what we have been reduced to? This weekend we are supposed to be going out on a “date,” and our next meeting with the therapist is to be on Tuesday. I am just praying to whatever god there is for some strength. I could sure use some. No piss or vinegar tonight. Pretty emotionally drained, and tired.
Parallel universe 4 January 2006
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Two days in a row my posts are also song titles. Go figure. The Red Hot Chili Peppers’ Californication was a good album. Yes, it was pretty commercialised (see my previous post), but those boys can still rock out, I don’t give a shit.
Not surprisingly today was not any better than yesterday, at least on the relationship front. I think, however, I have begun to drill down to the core of the issue. (more…)
